Letters to the Editor, Nov. 13

Relationships Always Complicated

In response to Josh Lommis' article, "Cheating complexities explored": Upon reading the title of the article, I assumed maybe it would hold some never before heard information or some great insights or advice. While what was found may prove helpful in seeing what we already know from a different way, the advice the article holds is much easier said than done. It does not seem to explore the complexities of cheating or relationships at all.

"Don't get grey hair over a college fling." "If you feel compelled to cheat, end ties with your partner." It may not seem like it, but we all know relationships are very complex — much more complex than cheating. Every relationship is different, and no one set of advice can apply to everyone. It is not as easy to "end ties" as some may think. It is quite possible that within relationships, feelings should be the most respected and protected aspect: both your own feelings and your partner's. As time goes on, the union you form grows tighter all the time, and feelings start to matter more and more.

After a certain amount of time after you make this commitment and form this union, it is neither easy nor acceptable to "end ties" with someone based off a desire to cheat. While I'm not arguing you should stay with someone if you are absolutely certain you do not want to date them, I will say one should figure this kind of thing out before it gets serious. If you realize it too late, you are not only pressuring yourself over these petty situations, but also crushing someone else in worse ways than you think.

Like you mentioned in the article, "we are young." Yes, we are — and also very vulnerable. Relationships are important to us and for more people than not, they are goal — in "single life" most are striving for a relationship. I think that this particular advice in the article is where the problem within relationships and cheating may lie. We need to realize the diversity within relationships and stop listening to this kind of one-size-fits-all advice.

I know that, at least for me, nobody else can know or really understand a situation you are facing within your relationship because nobody but you and your partner are there the whole time. Look inside your relationship as well as yourself, and figure out what is best for you and your partner and what the best possible outcome(s) could be. The outside advice articles like this — and even your friends — may bring to light never changes; it's all the same and very generic. Let's be honest with ourselves and learn our own ways to overcome these obstacles. I promise you will feel better in the end.

Haley French-Sloan

Freshmen General Studies

Suh puts team ahead of himself

In Gary Stevens' response to the editor on November 4, 2009, he stated "there will be no more championship Nebraska football until Coach Pelini figures out a way to make these ‘kids' play football with integrity on and off the field."

First of all, Mr. Suh is one of the best players to ever play at Nebraska. His leadership has been vital to this team, and he will continue to be a huge leader in his professional career.

No one can deny Coach Pelini does not take selecting team captains lightly. Coach Pelini would never select someone as a captain if he felt they did not have integrity on and off the field. Coach Pelini knows who should be the team captain.