Students are often advised to wait on marriage until after college. For students in love, however, it might be difficult to put marriage on the back burner for what could be years.
There is a stigma attached to getting married at a young age. Sociologists, psychologists and parents alike often posit getting married young can have negative long-term effects on the marriage and impede couples from finishing their education. Yet for those ready to get married, waiting could be just as stressful and problematic.
If college couples feel they are ready for marriage, they should feel free to do so despite potential obstacles. While a wedding requires time and money, there’s no guarantee tying the knot while in school will affect one’s education or future in a negative way.
College should not keep students from getting married. In fact, matrimony can be advantageous for many couples still in school.
One advantage of being married in college is couples can live together and share expenses. Sharing rent, utilities and other bills can take stress off individuals and help couples save money. Many unmarried couples share expenses, but married couples could have additional advantages like the ability to share job benefits such as health insurance.
The government also grants many benefits to those who are married, such as marital tax deductions and the ability to file joint taxes, which save low- to medium-income individuals money. While finances should not be the primary reason for marriage, these advantages demonstrate marriage in college is not as detrimental as many make it out to be.
Beyond financial benefits, marriage provides individuals with someone who promises to care for and support them. The encouragement a spouse can provide is extremely beneficial to students in the midst of the emotional rollercoaster that comes with transitioning from school to a career.
This doesn’t mean every college fling should end in marriage. Proposing and deciding to get married is a process that takes thought and time, but couples ready for marriage should have no reservations about getting married just because they’re in school.
On the other hand, wedding planning takes a lot of time, energy and money. Going through this while in school isn’t simple or easy, but it’s no more difficult than doing it while engaged in a full-time job, which is likely the alternative.
There is never a perfect time to plan and carry out a wedding. If couples can make it happen during college, why not continue education with a spouse instead of a boyfriend or girlfriend?
This piece was originally published in the February 2019 edition of The DN.